How to win friends and influence people 

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people 

"Do this and you will become welcome anywhere."

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you." "Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

Refection: If you want to know the taste of a pear, you must change the pear by eating it yourself. If you want to know the theory and methods of revolution, you must take part in revolution. All genuine knowledge originates in direct experience. The tragedy of life is in what dies inside a man while he lives  the death of genuine feeling, the death of inspired response, the awareness that makes it possible to feel the pain or the glory of other men in yourself.

This quote for me really got to me because of the way its asking for you can become a leadership but it requires being genuinely interested in other people so therefore you have to always choose the right and make people to like you . You have to talk about there life not just your self so what i believe is that you should always keep on trying and never give up. 

Rule 2: Smile 

1. "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."

2. "You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile." 

3."Its creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign of friends." 

Refection: Remember even though the outside world might be raining, if you keep on smiling the sun will soon show its face and smile back at you.Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. 

Smile in the mirror. Do that every morning and you'll start to see a big difference in your life. Let my soul smile through my heart and my heart smile through my eyes, that I may scatter rich smiles in sad hearts. They might not need me; but they might. I'll let my head be just in sight; a smile as small as mine might be precisely their necessity. 

Rule 3: Remember names 

1) "A mans name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any Language."

2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble." 

Reflection: Pilots have their names painted just beneath the canopy of their aircraft. This gives the pilot a sense of ownership for his or her jet. What's more, like cars, each aircraft has its own personality, so it's important for a pilot to get to know and love his aircraft. We are motivated by a keen desire for praise, and the better a man is the more he is inspired by glory. The very philosophers themselves, even in those books which they write in contempt of glory, inscribe their names.

i really do like this quote because its telling you to never give up to keep on going and you will become better in life.  Some of the companies we helped start are names you know. An office supply company called Staples - where I'm pleased to see the Obama campaign has been shopping; The Sports Authority, which became a favorite of my sons. We started an early childhood learning center called Bright Horizons that First Lady Michelle Obama rightly praised.

How to remember peoples names

 1. . Meet and repeat.

2.Spell it out.

3.Associate.

4.Make connections.

5.Choose to care. 

Theses are 5 ways to remember peoples names. 

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. 

"If you aspire to be good conversation, be an attentive listener." 

"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you.

Reflection: i want my soccer skills to be accessible to every listener because I know that I really have something to say in terms of really, you know, removing thorns from people, thorns that really makes us unaware that we are bleeding with these thorns, like pain, grief, jealousy and so on. 

I really do like this quote a lot because it tells you you have to be a good listerner and all your ears you should never give up on what you always wanted keep on going and always keep your head up. A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something.

5 tips to listing to them.

1. Stay focused 

2.really listen

3. period of silence 

4. repeat people words back to them 

5.understand his or her words 

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other mans interest 

"The royal road to a mans heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."

What I've enjoyed most, though, is meeting people who have a real interest in food and sharing ideas with them. Good food is a global thing and I find that there is always something new and amazing to learn - I love it! Never refuse an assignment except when there is a conflict of interest, a potential of danger to you or your family, or you hold a strongly biased attitude about the subject under focus.

Reflection: I really do enjoy this statement because in order for someone to actually pay attention to you is you have to talk about what they love to do. Advances don't fundamentally interest me. It sounds terribly naive, but money doesn't really mean anything to me. If a lot of money came my way, I'm certainly not going to say no. But it hasn't come my way as yet, and I'm not heartbroken.

This quote really means a lot of things you should always care for your wife or girlfriend because they are the most important person in your life so what i believe is that you have to always be there for the girl you really love i truly agree with this so much because a women is the most and best thing to ever get in life unless its a soccer ball then no. 

Rule 6: make the other person feel important- and do it sincerely.

"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."

Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain... To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices - today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it.Every day I feel is a blessing from God. And I consider it a new beginning. Yeah, everything is beautiful.

Reflection: However good you think your listening skills are, the only person who can tell you if you have understood correctly or not is the speaker.  Therefore, as an extension of good listening skills, you need to develop the ability to reflect words and feelings and to clarify that you have understood. 

I really do like this quote a lot because it can really help you in life and as you can see im a person that will never give up and keep on trying to become the best i do agree of helping others i really do like helping people i will always and strongly help others because thats just the right thing to do. 

25 ways to help people feel important 

1.Make a note of the important events in her life and ask her how the events went.

2.Give her a specific and genuine compliment.

3.Praise her in front of other people.

4.In a group setting, ask her to tell her favorite story.

5.If she’s telling a story to a group and she gets cut off for some reason, be the first person to ask 6.her to continue telling it.

7.Ignore her tiredness. Nobody wants to be told that they have dark rings under their eyes or 8that they look like they just woke up.

9.After meeting someone new, follow up the next day with an email or handwritten note.

10.When you first call her on the phone, ask if it’s a good time for her to talk.

11.If, while talking on the phone, you hear something going on in the background, ask her if she 12.needs to attend to it.

13.Don’t multi-task while you’re on the phone. She’ll be able to tell.

14.Send her a link to an article that you think would interest her.

15.Write her a thank-you note.

16.Connect her with someone else you know who might be able to help her.

17.Wait for a full second or two before replying to something she says. This shows that your 18.response is a thoughtful one.

19.Don’t play with your cell phone while you’re with her. At the very least, put your phone on 20.the table with the screen facing down.

21.If you’re working at your laptop when she comes to talk to you, close your laptop. If you 22.can’t do that for some reason, at least make it clear that she has your undivided attention.

23.Buy her a gift for no apparent reason.

24.Write a blog post and dedicate it to her.

25When she’s explaining her problem to you, listen intently without offering any solutions or advice.

Reflection: I really did like all the 6 ways because you can really become a better person if you follow these steps i do believe in being the best and these things could happen and i truly and strongly believe that you could be helping and talking to people the one that i really enjoy was rule 4: because it talks about being a good listener if your a good listener you will go to places i do believe in being a good person.